Yes, it is.
One thing up front: Google recommends 8dp (not 8pt, but convertible for the same purpose). I'm not sure where you get the idea that these companies use a 4pt grid, but 4pt is still within the 8pt grid (we could argue that the 8pt grid is a 4pt grid, which is correct).
The thing about the 8pt (or 4) grid is that it fits most devices. And that includes Apple. Apple doesn't give a fixed number, but if you look at the examples, they all use the 8pt grid.
I understand that some companies have inconsistent spacing. Many of them don't even have a design system (though none of the ones you mentioned). But the 8 grid, while a relatively new fad, has been around for decades, and believe me, many designers use it. I'm a little confused by your last question, because in my experience it's just the opposite. Even the site you're asking this question on uses an 8pt grid!
To summarize:
- It's used and tested by many quality design companies
- It's very easy to use, even by inexperienced designers
- Provides a consistent layout for designs
- It's very easy to adapt to almost any design system
- Looks great on any device and every DP resolution